4 minutes

I once heard that a child has, on average, only 4 minutes of genuine interaction with an adult on any given day.  It was shocking then, and it is still shocking now, but I see how it is true. Even at school, it's amazing how hard it is to find a few minutes to sit down with just one student and talk. This doesn't include calling on a student, but having a real conversation.

After a test today in 3rd period, we had about 15 minutes left of class, so I let the kids just hang out. One of the students, E.Y. is on a plan with me where he has to show me his agenda each day at the end of school, get it signed by his mom, and then show me in the morning. I saw that he didn't get it signed last night, so I asked him if he was staying with his dad this weekend. I know his parents are divorced, and heard from his middle school teachers that weekends with his dad are much less structured and his dad often doesn't keep up on his work. He said that yes, he was with his dad this weekend. I told him that my parents are divorced and that I know it's hard to switch homes on the weekend and keep up on your work, but that he needs to be sure he gets mom or dad to sign his agenda. I think that hearing that I had once been through a similar situation gave him a feeling of safety and allowed him to open up to me. He said that he misses how he and his dad used to get pizza on the weekends but now that his dad has a new girlfriend, they don't do that. And he said that he think he needs to probably grow up and understand that he can't have pizza each weekend but that he still doesn't really like this new girlfriend.

He was so sweet as he was opening up. Sometimes I forget that they are just children and they really need to just talk. Talk about friends, talk about family, and talk about life. It's something I need to make more time for - conversations.

On another note - TFA got a second shout-out in the Office this week. "Teach for America girls are way hotter. But they're nuts." Damn straight.